Tag: anon

Hey Frankie, im just wondering why you reposted that post about ariana? Im not really a fan of her but she’s of italian desecent so olive skin isnt usual, i know a few italians with similar skin colour and she never claimed to be hispanic from what i know. She refers her as as an Italian American “half Sicilian and half Abruzzese” which are both italian regions. Im just confused if she did do something wrong?

it’s that she’s gotten continuously darker and darker since her actual music career began. she def wasn’t that brown a few years ago and a lot of the celebs doin this are selling the image of ~ethnically ambiguous~ even if they aren’t actually pretending to be another race

i’m not sure Frankie, I’m going to a trans group this month to figure some stuff out, bc I have been questioning whether I’m a girl for a while now, but I don’t feel bad pyshical dysphoria, just regular discomfort…. any tips for figuring myself out? sidenote: sucked dick/got dick sucked for the first time last week !

this is. gonna be long.

sexuality’s got nothin to do w gender so that last bits got nothin to do abt anything. there’s no wrong way to be trans! it’s literally just u feeling like u don’t identify with the gender everyone else has been identifying you as and this revelation can come Hella late in life even if u were comfortable doin things that came with being that gender. gender is just gender. trans women can not care about having a dick and decide they wanna keep it. they can even love having a dick. the dysphoric feeling of needing to change your body isn’t the absolute basis of being transgender, transitioning is just trying to make yourself comfortable with the body you have and if there’s bits you’re already comfortable with that’s normal. if your transitioning just means you want to change your general aesthetic with clothes and hair that’s fine too.

what im tryin to say is when you go to that group you’re gonna meet a lot of people with a lot of different personal experiences with gender that has changed how they want to transition and how far along that goal they are. just ask the questions you have and even if you’re unsure about your gender right now focus on what you learn from them that makes you feel comfortable with yourself. you don’t have to know right off the bat. you’re allowed to play with pronouns and names. you’re allowed to go back and forth with style choices. you’re allowed to not want some things other people are having done and you’re allowed to think about those things as a “maybe later after i think about it more”

these are lessons i learned the hard way when going to groups. just don’t let them make you feel pressured to find yourself instantly and pressured to start figuring out the logistics. you’re you no matter what your gender is and you have to try to keep it fun. exploring gender is something a lot of people never have the chance to do! make it fun! experiment w the things you want to and be safe

and most importantly: your exploration into these things can be as slow and unoverwhelming as you want it to be